Tag Archives: parenting

Life lessons in Music?

I get inspired from music.  I also believe I was largely taught many life lessons by music.  I remember when I got my first radio / cassette player.  I couldn’t have been any older than 6 or 7.  It was a silver, narrow upright model.  I can’t remember the brand name but I am pretty sure it was a no name model.  I tried to Google an image for a late 1970’s AM/FM cassette player but nothing familiar turned up (you get the idea I am sure).  

As a child, I listened to music incessantly; I remember Casey Kasem’s American top 40, local radio rock stations in Montreal and of course CBC (the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation – public radio).  Many songs of course had themes of love lost, hard times, and others of personal triumphs.  I learned the words to many of those songs not knowing the meaning behind them.  As I got older, the words to some of those songs stuck with me and the meanings of them slowly revealed themselves as I matured and could relate to them. 

I made many road trips with my parents growing up.  Their car had an 8-track player.  It had a mixture of music ranging from Simon and Garfunkel to ABBA and was heavy on the country music side.  I remember singing along in the car to many country songs.


My son (age 5) now has his own MP3 player and he too listens to music a lot!  His night time routine is to play his music before he goes to bed.  I often hear it still playing long after he has fallen asleep.  I managed to find a picture of his player. 

 I find it remarkable how quickly kids pick up the words to song.  My son is in a French emersion school and many of his lessons are learning through music.  He learned the days of the week, his letters and numbers in French by singing them.  I can’t believe I remember this – but here is a an old clip from the TV show “Happy Days” that shows how some people learn better with music (10 minutes):

 I need to put more thought into his music list.  His playlist currently has a mixture of children’s song in English and French as well as a couple of Celtic and top 40 tunes.  I will post an update shortly with a list of his music – I also welcome any suggestions! 🙂

Tagged , , ,

Your Life is Not Your Own

Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of the effect you have on people when you are mired in your own thoughts.  I was reminded of that today when I told my son to “move it along” when we were walking back to the car in ~-20 weather.  He told me that he got in trouble for saying that in school the other day (my son is in kindergarten). 

After he told me, I realized I was probably a little harsh when I said it.  That whole situation got me thinking about a similar incident that happened to me when I was younger.  I was a little older (probably around 9) and I was on a field trip.  My class and I were heading back to school on the school bus.  We were traveling through the countryside and we passed a farm that smelled really bad.  I said a comment that my dad used to say to people all the time when there was a foul smell.  Much to my surprise, I got a huge strip torn off me by my teacher for saying what I said.  I know now that what I said was much worse than what it meant to a 9 year old at that time.  I felt so ashamed at that moment but what was worse I was confused (because I didn’t really understand).  I ended becoming a little ashamed of my dad for saying such things and resenting him for getting me into trouble. 

In either case that incident was a long time ago but it came back to me as true as the day it happened. When I heard my son getting into trouble because he was only mimicking my behavior I wondered if he too was ashamed and confused with himself and me?  The interesting point is my son told me what happened to him, I never told my dad.  I apologized to my son and found myself driving home feeling pretty crappy overall.

Realizing that my life is not my own but rather shared (or followed – i.e.Footprints), how do you live knowing what you say, what you do and how you do it may be impacting others around you (especially if they are little sponges like kids)?  All I can do is get in front of it, be honest and hope my kids tell me when I did something wrong  :).

Tagged , , , , ,
%d bloggers like this: